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Physical & Health
· Life Style
· Habits we create
· You are what you eat
· Don’t go it alone – Group accountability
· Perspective – what is your focus / what are you measuring against
· Adapt your perspective according to your age, body type, etc
· Know your #s (HDL, LDL, BMI, etc)
· Its not just for me / my health & fitness is for my family
· Obtainable & Sustainable – look at things realistically – (don’t set a goal of working out 5 hours a day when you don’t have 5 hours in your day to work out)
· Daily Choices
· Discipline
· Research – read books, get a mentor, etc

When you focus on an area for a period of time it begins to come natural – once it becomes a lifestyle it sustains there

Family & Home

· Live for them (Wife/Husband & Kids)
· Serve them
· Togetherness
· Talking
· Empathy (verbally describe the other persons position)
· Understanding where someone comes from & evaluate their position
· Accepting that position
· Forgiveness
· Recognition / Appreciation
· Edification / Building up
· Quality time not quantity
· All in perspective of the stage of life you are in with your kids
· Family Team – do things together (turn off the TV and play a board game together where there is interaction)
· Honesty / Trust
· Understand the temperament of your children
· Understand who deals best with each child / Mom or Dad
· Fun – Incorporate fun / enjoying each other
· Balance the extras – don’t do every extra curricular activity
· Common vision for family – then work toward that vision
· Security / Stability

(Input from staff meeting 4/5/07)

Social & Cultural

Social – Social Skills
1. How we communicate within our families, friends, and people we don’t know
2. How well your friendships work / How many friends do you have
3. Some have 1 best friend – not good…narrows your world
4. The Kingdom Mindset – you reach out

Social Skills:
· Considerate
· Positive
· Light – Fun
· Inclusive
· Not insecure
· Available
· Hygiene
· Focused
· Sense of Humor – Funny
· Not Demanding
· Encouragement
· Selfless – focused on others
· Welcoming

Sizing up the space
· Learn to size up what’s going on around you - big room or small room
· How close are you to other tables (if in a café or restaurant)
· Sizing up your environment determines how you speak – loud or soft
· Then size up the people

Totem Pole – know where you are in any situation
· There are different levels on a totem pole
· Know where you are and act accordingly
· If you are young you are at the bottom – respecting your elders
· There is leadership in every room – announced or unannounced. When you understand where you are shift accordingly:
o During worship – Johanna has the mic – she is on top (Steve D. would follow Johanna’s lead)
o Dean comes up and starts to speak - he is now at the top and Johanna shifts accordingly
o Where we are determines how we act

Social Setting – What happens when you don’t know the person
· KEY – read people
· Know how to read people
· Have self understanding
· It takes 30 seconds to size up the environment & the person

When you have good social skills you can control the environment to your advantage. You can be a chameleon & shift - become what the situation needs. You have to learn to adapt to every situation you are in.

Send a message through your interaction. At church what are the signals we send? (go back to the social skills list)

*Developing your social skills is about growing the Kingdom. People will connect on the human level before they connect on a God level – people come to church for social reasons – social skills create the environment.

Cultural

· Breaking out of your comfort zone
· The world is more than just where you are from
· When you are culturally boxed in you are very narrow – you won’t live life to the fullest without getting out of your culture.
· Look outward from your little world

Mental & Emotional

Emotional

A high scoring emotional person would have what traits:

· Balanced
· Stable
· Calm
· Confident
· Processing emotions properly / Self manage your emotions
· Guard against depression
· Manage the tough times

How do you stay balanced?
· When you start focusing on other people’s problems your problems will
be taken care of.
· Surround yourself with those friends that have access to your emotions
· Guard your heart
· Recognize symptoms and deal quickly
· Keep perspective
· Know your emotional capacity - know yourself
· Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve exposing yourself and don’t be all shut up with walls – learn the right people to open your heart up to

Communication is the key to emotional stability

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